Category Archives: Self-Compassion

It’s not your fault . . .

By , January 16th, 2017 | Mindfulness, Nurturing Relationships, Self-Compassion, Self-Kindness | 0 Comments

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I was watching a video in which Rick Hansen, neuropsychologist and author of the books Buddha’s Brain and One Good Thing, explained to me that it wasn’t my fault that I seemed to focus much more on negative thoughts than positive ones.

It turns out that the ancient part of our brains has a negativity bias, just like the antelopes in the African savannah. When your life depends upon being focused and aware of danger, you tend to remember scary stuff. You store it so that if anything comes up that feels threatening, you can immediately access that big group of neurons and get yourself ready to …

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Confessions of a meditator

By , March 3rd, 2015 | Meditation, Mindfulness, Self-Compassion, Self-Kindness | 0 Comments

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I have a confession to make. I don’t always meditate every day, even though I tell everyone they should.

What happens to me is what happens to most of us. We have every intention to stop, to sit still for brief time, to just be. But life gets going, we get revved up, and the day slips by before we know it. We smack our foreheads on the way to bed and say “Oops, I forgot to meditate today!”

I wrote a book about learning to meditate, and, for the most part, I practice what I preach. I do this not to be goody-two shoes perfect, but because I really do understand how …

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Sitting all day is hazardous to your health

By , January 23rd, 2015 | Energizing Movement, Mindfulness, Self-Kindness, Supportive Environment | 0 Comments

mombasa varideskAs part of my research on health and fitness, I kept seeing all the articles about the impact of sitting all day. The headline that really got my attention was “Sitting is the new smoking.”

When I’m creating my on-line courses, I get into a mode of such intense concentration that I don’t even realize how long I’ve been sitting. I’d tried setting alarms to remind myself to get up and move, but even if I did get up I was so mentally involved that I really wanted to get back to the keyboard.

What if . . .  I could stand up and continue working?

This seemed like a great idea, so after some research I decided to get …

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How to find courage by sitting on your butt

By , August 1st, 2014 | Mindfulness, Self-Compassion | 2 Comments

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I’ve started a formal meditation practice again after a long absence, and it is both humbling and illuminating at the same time. I’m starting small — just 20 minutes. It seems like an eternity.

How did I let my practice get away from me? And why have I waited so long to begin again?

Ah, begin again, there’s the rub. After all, I am a long-time meditator. I even wrote a book about it. Why am I here sitting with my legs hurting, starting over?

It’s a long story, not one for the telling right now. The point is, I am back on my cushion and today I watched my mind frantically grasp one thought after …

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Learning from giraffes

By , October 31st, 2013 | Common Humanity, Nurturing Relationships, Self-Compassion | 0 Comments

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A giraffe riddle meme on Facebook captured the attention of the news – USA Today, CNN, Huff Post, Chicago Tribune, TIME, TODAY, ABC, among other, and became an interesting phenomenon.

Those of us who got the riddle wrong and put a picture of a giraffe in our profile had fun hanging out, laughing about how good it felt to be part of this odd club. Some of those who got the riddle right were even saying they wished they had gotten it wrong so they could be part of the group.

So what gives? My theory is that in these times of so much bad news, being part of something fun felt really good. It was …

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